Men and Crying
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I have been reading this article called
“Why Can’t Women Stand Emotional Men? –Are You One of Them?”.
‘Women like power- Women are attracted towards power and often like dominant males who know what they want out of life and don’t cry when something does not go their way.”
I would share the permalink with you but it is about a mile long. Let’s just say that this is an Ezine Article. And why worry about this subject here at Christmas time?
Because I get emotional when I hear certain Christmas songs. And then I cry. So when I read this I am concerned.
” But why is it that most women call emotional men as losers and they always end up getting rejected?”
First of all I would just like to say that this sentence is not well written. The author is not handling the English language well. But perhaps I shouldn’t be the one to cast a stone in this direction. Sometimes I write sentences that are not sentences. Why? Because my sixth grade English grammar teacher is no longer standing over me. I can do it and not be subjected to ridicule or a bad odor.
But there is still the jury of your peers out here. They will drive your blog into the ground if you do not behave.
In any case I am not happy with the assumptions made by this article. Abraham Lincoln was one of the greatest Americans to ever live and he cried. He had a problem with depression too. He was a mess but so was the country. They went well together. Lots of strong men cried during the Civil War. Try laying on a battlefield all night long in the cold wind and rain while you have a bullet right next to your kidney.
I would cry a river and then flow away on it. Isn’t there a song about that? Maybe. But crying actually can make you stronger because it allows you to find your emotion core. And you need to be centered in order to win the next battle.
“Women want security- This is probably one of the major reasons why most women can’t stand emotional men.”
Maybe there are women out there who feel these things are true. But I would like to suggest that the author of this article misses the whole point. Women want successful men who are happy.
If they are successful and they cry sometimes what are they going to do? Give them back? Return them to the store for a refund? Stop loving them?
Let’s say your woman has a puppy dog that she has loved for many years. He gets old and one day he goes to puppy dog heaven. She is devastated and tears start to flow. So what do you do?
You pull out your checkbook and ask her what kind of new dog she would like and how much will it cost. Merry Christmas!
This is not the way to find a happy 21st century relationship. If there is a reason to cry then go ahead and cry guys! Laughter and tears are the best medicine sometimes.
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6 responses so far
David I came from a long line of crying men, my father would cry during hallmark card commercials, being a basketball coach the emotion and stress of the game has brought me to tears on many occasion and I am not ashamed to admit it.
I think that is cool. It sounds like you had a lot of emotional support growing up. That’s very important.
Some men, and I suspect women as well, can’t cry. Not because of their status or because of shame or anything else of the sort, but because they simply don’t have that kind of a reaction. I don’t. I know others who don’t either. There’s simply not that physiological reaction to events that produces tears and snot.
You make it sound so attractive. Did we really have to bring body fluids into it
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David,
Great article! I too am one of the guys who cries. I coached football for ten years and cried every year when the season was over. I too cry at movies, even ones that I have seen more than once! I could go on and on but I think you get the picture.
As far as the article stating that most women can’t stand men that cry, I think we need to look at the age of the women surveyed. Because I know when I was younger a lot of women would make fun of me etc. As I have “matured” (now in my forties) it seems to me that women no longer have the same reaction.
Maybe it could be compared to the bad boy syndrom. I all women go through that stage. They want the bad boys. The rebel who’s just plain bad (butt heads) to every one including the very women who chase them. Then as they mature all the sudden they (the women) want a nice guy who will treat them right. Just my two cents Dave. I hope you had a Merry Christmas and have a Happy New Year!
Thanks Joe. I hope you are having a great holiday too. I think you are right about the maturity level. It has been a great relief to me to discover as I get older that women are growing so much wiser. And I’m not jesting. It’s true. Guys mature too. It’s not too difficult to find a really super lady at age fifty. I can tell you that from my own experience and you can read about it here too.
Let’s make it happen in 2008!